Let go of the sadness

Eighteen years ago, I remember sitting alone many nights listening to Bonnie Raitt’s song “I Can’t Make You Love Me” while feeling really sorry for myself that my boyfriend didn’t seem to give me the affection I wanted. It was such an addicting sad song, I listened to it over and over again thinking about how sad I was that I poured my heart out for someone who didn’t seem to reciprocate my attachment to him…What a baffoon I was!

Being honest with yourself

I recently had a reader remind me that no one deserves to be lied to and manipulated. She read my last post about being equally responsible for a split in the relationship. She explained that sometimes, the split happens because one person was a lying and manipulative bastard like her ex-partner. I saw little of myself in her in my hurt and her anguish of being lied to, so I decided to explain a little further what I meant by being equally responsible for a split.

You beg him to dump you

Many women want out of an unhappy relationship, but are too scared to make the decision to leave. Instead, they will ask their man to do the favor of cutting them loose. The underlying reason for this irrational behavior is that these women want to continue their role as victim. They want to be given a forced hand so they don’t have to take responsibility for living a happy life.