Thinking it invites it into your life.

Well it’s been a long time since an update. That’s probably because I really don’t have any jerk musings to complain about anymore. Yup, the old jerk diet has really done my self esteem and confidence wonders.

I still see a lot of emotional suffering around me, but I choose not to get involved in them if I can help it. I’m quite happy now thinking about things of present. I retired from professional fighting, but found joy in coaching other fighters discover their capabilities.

This little update is just to remind you that when you can’t stop thinking about that asswipe or that stupid whore who hurt you so deeply, you are inviting them to be part of your life. That’s alright, though. By the nature of this blog, I’ve had to think hard about the past hurt, and dwell on it a bit. But it was with the intention to process it all the way through so I could move on. It took me a couple of years, but I eventually got past it, without carrying blame for anyone. That’s only because I envisioned the end. I didn’t invite these feelings in without an exit plan, which would have been the definition of insanity. Allowing in feelings of hurt and anger just to perpetuate it is a very sorry excuse of a life. Go on and allow these bad feelings, but each time you do, learn to figure out a way to feel good about yourself after each session. The more you do that, the less of an effect those feelings have for you the next time you think about them.

There may be forces in the world dealing you a bad hand, but keep in mind that you really only have what’s in front of you right now. Obsessing over something that is not in front of you obstructs your ability to enjoy what you have in front of you.

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