You ladies know who you are. You don’t have to be having sex to be viewed as a slut. You only need to put out a message that your highest value is that of sexual favors. If your normal attire is in sexually provocative clothing, or you flirt excessively with men by talking to them or touching them in a sexual manner, then you’re seen as a slut. A jerk can easily identify your vulnerabilities when you are being a slut, and target you for his own twisted purposes. 

My definition of a slut is a little more broader than normal convention because it includes more women than you would think. You can be a woman who has sex regularly with different people and still not be considered a slut in my eyes. I actually know some women who really enjoy the activity of sex, but are very diginified in their presentation and interaction in public. Conversely, you can be someone who has never had sex and still be a slut.

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Jerk Bait

When you like that men lust after you, you enjoy the power of having something that others want. It’s a natural thing to crave power. But the clear message you send when you are slutty is that you your sexual prowess is your highest power. You may try acting like you are also clever, insightful, witty, and well-read, all while wearing a very short miniskirt or exchanging suggestive email messages with a man. But the overriding message with your presentation is the value you put on your ability to please someone sexually.

My jerky ex talked about one of his female “friends” who often sent him pictures of herself in the nude or skimpy outfits. He showed me her public Myspace pictures where she would try to look like someone’s fantasy pin-up girl. He said she didn’t sleep around, but would wear these really hot outfits when they “hung out” together. He complained that she had lots of “daddy” issues, and that she had a very childish and an unrealistic view of relationships. Then he said that she was so damn hot that he couldn’t help but want to be around her. I don’t know if the poor girl knew that he was talking about her like she was a dumb piece of ass, but she continued to tease him while trying to show him how much of an intellectual she was.

You guessed it, he eventually cheated on me with her. In true fashion of a jerk, he kept me from meeting such a “good” friend and said that “one day” I’ll meet her. This was a lesson to me on how jerks view you if you’re slutty. They immediately hone in on your vulnerabilities. You are even more appealing when you make it known that you don’t sleep around. A slutty girl who doesn’t sleep around is a pristine target to jerks.

If you want the world to know that sex is your most powerful asset, then this post does not apply to you….you just go on with your sexy self. But for all other sluts, my message to you is that you need to see your behavior in a different light from how you’ve been viewing it. Being a slut is not by nature; it’s by choice. The way you present yourself is showing which part of you is the most important. When you behave like a slut, you are saying to people, even before you know them, that sexual powers is the most important thing to you. This defeats your goals of achieving a character of any depth. You are not as powerful as you think, other women don’t admire you, and you are not a good catch for a nice guy. Instead, you are purposefully making yourself an object, just waiting for jerks to come along. STOP THAT NOW!